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I work in mainland China most of the time while my wife stays in Hong Kong. Recently, I discovered that my wife has another man, and she admitted it. I was really stunned and furious. My wife said she was really sorry, and she was willing to come back to me. She ended the relationship with that man, and finally I forgave her. However, that's not the end of the trouble. I am often in doubt whether she is still seeing him and whether he is still lurking around, and that makes me angry. I cannot sleep at night. What can I do to come over it?
 
Answer

Many men may suppress his distress feeling after a traumatic life event. However, the bad feeling lurking deep inside may disrupt your life. It is good to see that you can honestly tell us your problem. Indeed, expressing your feeling can relieve to a certain extent your emotional disturbance. You should find a counselor and share your problem with him/her. The counselor will give you appropriate advice on how to deal with your anger and anxiety inside. Once you can get over your negative feelings, perhaps you can rebuild your relationship with your wife on mutual respect and trust.

You can seek professional counseling service from the following organizations:

  • Social Welfare Department Hotline: 2343 2255
  • Christian Family Service Centre Tel : 2861 0283
  • Harmony House MAN Hotline : 2295 1386
  • Caritas Jockey Club Project on Marital Relationship Enrichment - Intimacy Channel, Tel: 3618 4460 (Monday to Thursday 09:00 – 17:00; Friday 09:00 – 20:00)
  • Caritas Jockey Club Project Cedar - Social and Emotional Support Service for Men, Tel: 2649 9158/ WhatsApp: 5431 5413 (Monday, Wednesday, Friday 10:00 – 18:00; Tuesday 14:00 – 21:30; Thursday 10:00 – 21:30)

( Last Updated: 15-12-2002 )
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